Deaf and Queer (or Bi) | #BiWeek

Video: https://youtu.be/h4gdmqoWflI

Bye (bi) week! *chuckling* Okay, that was a really bad joke, let’s move on.

Hello, and welcome to another post. I know, so soon! I filmed this in advance then wrote it after editing and this is not scripted so… I don’t know how long this will be.

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So…I’m a bad bi person. I didn’t realize this week was Bi Week until today. From when you’re seeing this, two days ago. Yeah, so. Whoops. Can I just quickly say that I think it’s great that International Week of the Deaf and Bi Week are the same week? No complaints from me! Oh yeah, if you didn’t know I was bi, well. Hi, I’m bi! I’ve never explicitly said this in a video. I have said that I am queer (but not bi). And that’s not because I don’t like that label, no. It’s just… I like queer. It fits me. Bi fits me too.

Let me clear something up first. Bi, generally, equals two. Yes. That is correct. But! In this case, I saw this definition three times in like a week, and I really like this definition. For me, bi means I’m attracted to the same gender…and ALL the other genders. [finger guns]

Okay, I feel like this post will end up with me using finger guns a lot. That’s a bi thing, just so you know. For those of you who are really confused, the joke in the bi community is that you can tell someone’s bi if they use finger guns…a lot. Which I do. My YouTube outro is a variation on finger guns! Anyway, that’s not the point of this video. I just wanted to say this is Bi Week, and hi I’m bi!

I’ve had a lot of people be a little confused about me. They’re like, “Hmm…Are you gay, or are you straight?” Then when they ask me: “Are you straight?” No. “Oh, so you’re gay.” No. There are other things other than straight and gay, you know. People forget that bi people exist. We’re in the LGBTQ+! B! Hello? We’re there for a reason. There’s a lot of videos out there for Bi Week, I’m sure. I just haven’t really looked for them. I should though. But if you go on Twitter and search #BiWeek, there will be plenty of posts. Also, GLAAD is the one who’s promoting this week, so that’s great. I will link the video here that made me think yeah, I should make my own video.

The video is by Jackson Bird, a trans YouTuber. The title of the video is “Why I Don’t Talk About Being Bi.” I thought it was interesting, but his reason is not the reason why I don’t talk about being bi. I’ve never actually talked about this before on my channel/blog. I’ve always said yes, I’m queer, but I’ve never explained more about that. So! Basically.

At this point, it’s a little over three years since I figured out oh, yeah, I’m bi. Once I figured it out, I’m like wooooow. It’s really obvious now, thinking back. Yeah. I wish I could say, “Oh I’ve always known my whole life.” No, I didn’t. I probably knew though, subconsciously. I didn’t really have much exposure to the queer community until college, really. Yes, I lived close to Seattle, a hour away. I have a few friends who live there, from there, whatever. But… I went to a high school at a really small, very white, really Christian high school. So…you can say that the queer community wasn’t really there. I’ve had queer people in my life growing up. My best friend growing up was gay. Well, he didn’t come out until early high school, but that’s not the point. It’s not like I had NO exposure so I never thought about it, no.

I had exposure.

I just…didn’t have those feelings, I guess?

Until college. Even then, it still took me a while. I think part of that is because generally, I don’t feel any romantic attraction to a person until I’ve known them for a while or I feel I have a strong emotional connection (possible demiromantic). That might have contributed to my delay in figuring out that I was bi. Hella bi. If you look at my YouTube channel art now, it’s the bi flag. If you didn’t know that, that’s the bi flag. On a slant, but yeah.YT Channel Art 2017.png

I have experienced biphobia. Well not phobia, not a fear, but certainly erasure. They will say, “Oh, which do you like more?” As if it really matters? Or… “You can’t like more than one gender!I don’t see how you can like only one gender. I’ve had people tell me bi isn’t a real thing. I’ve had people tell me, “Oh you’re really pan, not bi.” Hm, no. I like the term bi. I connect with bi. So I will use bi.

For you little bis out there, you are valid. Bisexuality is a real thing. If you feel you are bi, you are bi. There’s no “bi enough.” No. Forget that.

Jackson said this in his video, and I absolutely agree. I would love to more characters in media – TV shows, movies, whatever – say “I am bi.” And not, “I’m not into labels.” Come on! That’s a cop-out. Following up with that, I would love to see more characters say “I’m ace/I’m aro.” And not, “I’m not really into people.” Again, cop-out. Also, it would be fantastic if the writers decided to go ahead and make Wonder Woman come out as bi on the big screen. And before any of you bros say “The liberal media is ruining it! All of these snowflakes!” Hush! Wonder Woman is bi. It’s in the comics. So, it’s canon. [finger guns]

I don’t really know where I was going with this video. I didn’t really have any list of thoughts or anything. I’m just. Bi week! Woo! Make a video and post! So. Here you go. I hope it kind of made sense? I hope you enjoyed this video, and learned something more about me. If you are bi, or want to support us, go ahead and make your own videos, posts, pictures, whatever. Use the hashtag #BiWeek, and also check out GLAAD’s website for this week.

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ADA and HR 620 | Deaf Awareness Month

Video: https://youtu.be/qe9jQrpg6G4

Hello and welcome. Today I want to discuss a bill that Congress is trying to get through right now, HR 620. I’m not going to go into great detail about this, since Annie Elainey made a video explaining it a bit more in depth.

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But basically, this bill wants to roll back protections afforded to disabled people under the ADA (Americans with Disabilities Act). This act improved accessibility for a wide range of disabled people, including deaf people. What HR 620 will do is actually make it much more difficult for disabled people to get their accessibility, and essentially let businesses off the hook (re: protecting them) for not being accommodating. This is just unacceptable. Businesses have had 27 whole years to comply with the ADA, and have we seen substantial change? Not really. Sure, in newer buildings, they follow ADA code…For now. If HR 620 passes, who knows what will happen then? Oh, and I’d like to add this — even in buildings that are up to ADA code, they’re frequently barely up to code. They meet the bare minimums of universal accessibility and call it good enough. So many businesses genuinely do not care if disabled people are not able to access them and their services. This makes me angry.

The fact that Congress is trying to get this through right now makes me angry. We have already put up with abled people discriminating against us for so long, and ADA was finally a big step in the right direction. Now Congress wants us to take a step back? On top of rolling back LGBTQ+ protections, civil rights, health care? This is just not acceptable. If you’re able, PLEASE get in touch with your representatives and tell them what you think. Many have the option to call, text, or email them. There’s also a RESIST bot that you can text that will do the work for you. I’ll leave links below, they’re in Annie’s video as well. Please do what you can to make sure our voices are heard and that this bill does NOT pass.

H.R. 620 information and summary:
https://www.govtrack.us/congress/bills/115/hr620
https://www.govtrack.us/congress/bills/115/hr620/summary

Find your representative using your zip code: https://www.house.gov/htbin/findrep

Text RESIST to 50409
https://resistbot.io/about.html

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deaf vs Deaf | Deaf Awareness Month

Video: https://youtu.be/LIpJqFeC91E

Hello and welcome to another Deaf Awareness Month post! In my previous post/video, I briefly mentioned big D Deaf and small d deaf. Today I’m going more in-depth about that.

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The simplest explanation of the difference is this:

Big D = culturally Deaf

Small d = medically deaf

 

In the community, Deaf is when you’re considered a person who is fluent in sign, knows about Deaf culture, is involved with the Deaf community, and is proud to be Deaf. On the other hand, deaf is when you’re a person who has hearing loss but has no connection to the Deaf community, don’t know sign (or are barely able to), and chooses to not join the community. Another label that kind of blurs that line is hard of hearing or HH/HoH for short. These people are often considered to be people who are involved with the community, but have fairly decent hearing, can speak pretty well, and often can sign but not fluently.

Now with that introduction to the terms for those who don’t know them, and before I go any further, I want to make something absolutely clear. I personally think these terms can be—excuse my language—bullshit sometimes, and they often lead to unnecessary gatekeeping. There are plenty of people who are technically HH but consider themselves Deaf. There are people who are d/Deaf who also call themselves HH. My opinion is that this is just like any other identity—you want to call yourself _____? Okay! You do you. My issue is when people try to tell others that they’re not “Deaf enough” or “you’re too hearing-minded to be Deaf.” That needs to stop. That’s gatekeeping and it’s awful, no matter what community it is. A lot of Deaf people forget that roughly 90% of us are born to hearing families, and only 25% of parents with deaf children sign with them. So many of us grow up with little to no exposure of the Deaf community, so saying things like “you’re not Deaf enough” or “you’re too hearing-minded” is harmful. And what irritates me even more is that frequently, those very same people who say those things once came from the same place. There’s a great short film that shows this so well, called “My Song.” You can find it here. Basically, it’s about a woman who’s discovering her Deaf identity and her struggles with it. It’s about 23 minutes but worth the watch. (Also! The video is in BSL, but it is captioned.) The Deaf community is already a small community, we do not need more separations and deciding who’s “Deaf enough.” That leads me into my next thing.

I have seen some people discussing how to refer to this community properly and the most common one is this: d/Deaf and HH. That is probably the most inclusive one we have right now. Obviously, this would be used in a situation where you’re referring to the WHOLE community regardless of “status.” Here’s what I think. It might be simpler to say deaf community when you’re referring to everyone, regardless of hearing level or cultural knowledge. If you want to refer more specifically to those who sign and are culturally aware, or consider themselves Deaf, I’d either use Deaf community or simply signing community. I personally would like to try and use signing community or signers more often because that includes CODAs, interpreters, family, and anyone else who signs and is involved with the community. It takes the focus away from hearing level and “cultural knowledge.” In Finland, they have a word for this: viittomakielinen. Literally translated, it means “sign language person.” Viittoma: sign, kieli: language, nen: person. However, in Finnish, this does not mean just what it says in English. It means the person as a whole, with a cultural and linguistic history. It’s like if you say that person is Basque, you understand that they have their own language, culture, and history. Also, viittomakielinen doesn’t necessarily mean someone who simply knows sign (like an interpreter). I’m not going to go further because I do not know Finnish at all, so if I got anything wrong, please correct me! But this is what I learned when I was at Frontrunners. My point is, I love the fact that the Finns have a way to express this concept, and even people who have never met a Deaf person before understand what viittomakielinen means. In English, the closest equivalent would be signer, but that doesn’t translate very well in the written word.

The point of all this is: gatekeeping of who’s “Deaf enough” or “too hearing-minded” needs to stop, and the Deaf community needs to be more welcoming of everyone. We’re small, we don’t need to be any smaller.

And with that, I will stop for today. Hope you learned something new, and let me know what your thoughts are (regardless of who you are) in the video comments!

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Disability and Queerness | Deaf Awareness Month

Video: https://youtu.be/qBb8csox3d0

Welcome to the first post of Deaf Awareness Month! I’m starting off big – combining disability and queerness. I want to be clear here that when I say disability, I’m including physical, emotional, and educational disabilities. Basically, any kind of disability – and yes, I’m including deaf people in this. For those who aren’t aware, Deaf people generally don’t consider themselves disabled, just Deaf. If you’re paying attention, you’ll notice the capitalization of deaf changed. Quickly – large D is culturally deaf, small d is medically deaf. I will be making a post/video discussing that later on. With that being made clear, let’s get into today’s video. Far too often, in ANY organization, business, company, disabled people and queer people are either forgotten or marginalized. This is obvious to anyone who pays attention. That isn’t really what I want to discuss today. What I DO want to discuss is that I’m pretty disappointed in the inclusion of disabled people when it comes to queer organizations, businesses, companies, and even events. Actually…especially events. I did a basic search for the word disability on websites connected to queer organizations. The pages that I searched are: GLAAD, PFLAG, HRC, GLAD (law), Pride at Work, Out and Equal Workplace Advocates, and ILGA. On most of these websites, the only mention of disability is in the Equal Employment Opportunity policy or job postings. I understand that these organizations are focused on advocating for queer people, and disabled people aren’t a priority. Some of you might even say that shouldn’t be a part of their advocacy, leave it to the disability organizations. However, that’s the same argument people gave when gays and lesbians said “us first, then trans people.” Or something along those lines. The same mentality often happens in any other civil rights group: us first, then you. I disagree with that sentiment. The more you include now, the less work later. Queer disabled people face two different sets of discrimination, and in some cases, a whole unique set of discrimination that one or the other doesn’t experience. Too often, advocacy is narrowly focused on one aspect of a person’s identity, at the cost of other aspects. A really good word here is intersectionality. I have a collab planned to discuss more in-depth about that, so I won’t elaborate too much here. But basically, intersectionality is being mindful of the fact that a single identity does not exist in a bubble and WILL be influenced by other identities. I want to give you some stats related to queer and disabled students. These stats come from the Gay, Lesbian & Straight Education Network (GLSEN) and the findings show that these students are:

  • more likely to have experienced all types of disciplinary actions (47.8%) than their LGBTQ non-disabled peers (36.9%);
  • more likely to drop out of school (5.8%) than their LGBTQ non-disabled peers (2.6%);
  • more likely to have been involved in the justice system (4.4%) than their LGBTQ non-disabled peers (1.7%).

In addition, queer disabled youth who are also POC are even more likely to be unfairly treated. Unfortunately, that doesn’t come as a surprise. The stats I just gave you are focused on youth, but I’m sure the stats in the adult population would look fairly similar. There are a lot of studies out there that show what percentage of disabled people have been in the justice system or are unemployed. And, of course, how many queer people have been in the justice system or are unemployed… But what about that intersection? I honestly don’t know. There’s also no definite number of how many disabled people are also queer (or vice versa). However, I did find this HuffPost article from 2016 that quotes from a Center for American Progress report. The quote says, “nearly one in five adults has a disability, or will experience one at some point in their life. It’s estimated that between 3 to 5 million Americans with disabilities also identify as queer.” The article also discusses different ways how the queer community does/doesn’t include disabled people. However, most of the disabilities this article mentions are HIV/AIDS, PTSD, or invisible disabilities. No mention of other types of disability so take this article with a grain of salt.

I think this is a good place to stop, so that’s all for today. I’m sure there’s a lot more information, but this is a good start. When I make that collab, I will link it here. I want to know your thoughts on this, please leave them in the comments! (Also, if you happen to know of a job that’d be good for me, that’d be awesome!)

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BookTube Issues

Video: https://youtu.be/VvYkvvbwgZE

Hello! I’m back again so soon?? What is happening? Today I want to discuss about BookTube in general. I’ve already tried to make this post/video twice now, and… Well. Both times I tried to make this was as part of other BookTube videos and they were already pretty long. So I thought that it’d be better on its own anyway. My thoughts weren’t very organized both times, so doing a standalone is better. I have two specific things I want to discuss.

First, I am severely disappointed in the hit-and-miss of captions on BookTube. For a while, I thought there weren’t much recent videos captioned on BookTube. But then I realized my search filter wasn’t set to show in order of upload. Once that was changed, I found a whole bunch of recent captioned videos so… I guess I have a lot of videos to check out! But my point – before I discovered this – people really NEED to caption their content. Regardless of what content you make. And be consistent! If you’re all over the place with captions, or take DAYS to post captions… I’m not going to start or continue following you. CAPTION YOUR VIDEOS. In the video, I’m wearing a shirt that says “The Future Is Accessible.” If you want this shirt (and support an awesome YouTuber – Annie Elainey – in the process), you have a week to order one! I’ll link it here. If you know of any great BookTubers, or YouTubers in general, that caption their videos, leave them in the comments!

The second thing I want to discuss: there are so few masculine-presenting BookTubers. Why? I mean, I do kind of understand why there are so few, but at the same time… I know there are men out there that read. I know, because I’m one of them! I just would like to see more masculine-presenting BookTubers because I know you’re out there. Come on. Make videos. Tell me what you read! Part of why I want to see more is, from my fairly limited view of BookTube (like I just explained), it’s almost all white feminine-presenting people. And a lot of that talks about YA (Young Adult) books. Nothing wrong with that but… Where’s the diversity? There’s very little of the “masculine perspective.” I want to see books that men read. Hell, I want to see more people of color, enby, trans, queer, and disabled BookTubers! Diversity. If you know of diverse books or BookTubers (that caption!) leave them in the comments.

Really quick, I wanted to mention two things before ending. In my previous video, Augcollab Wrap Up, I mentioned that I was in a video with Cut. The curse words with deaf people, that one. I linked that one in that particular post/video. But they just posted another one recently, I will link that here if you want to see it. The second thing is that I went to the library today. I was thinking I’ll just get two or three books. I don’t know why I even thought that because… Come on, it’s me. I can never go to the library without getting more than that. Sure enough, I ended up leaving with nine books. By the way, you would know that if you follow me on Instagram. I posted it in both my stories and a post. If you’re interested in what books I got, it’s in the post.

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